About HTTP://wearyourscarsproud tm

Here at Wear Your Scars Proud tm, I am on a mission to break the cycles of abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Violence, I have found the treasures in my scars. Unfortunately  we all have them. Some are on our bodies and clearly visible and some are invisible, on the inside.. Whether your scars are the ones you can clearly see or much deeper.  

Our scars are a reminder of something painful we have been through physically, mentally or emotionally.. Some scars last a lifetime,  I can promise you, they are there to remind you of what once was a wound, has now healed. Scars will remind us of a painful past. I found that my physical scars were easier to heal than the Emotional and Mental scars. In fact, the inward scars were much more serious. No doctor could go in and fix the wounds left on the inside for them to heal to become a scar. 

My inward scars usually did not come until much later. My emotional and mental wounds would go unnoticed, untreated much longer than the physical wounds. Undetected and left untreated, it would take me years to discover these wounds needed to be fixed just like the physical wounds in order to move forward in life and find the treasures in my scars. 

There are some things that we would like to forget but scars will be there forever, serving as a constant reminder. As painful as they may be these inwardly and outwardly do serve a very important purpose. 

 There are a lot of things in life that we don’t understand: Why do bad things happen to good people? Why did somebody betrayed us? Why am I being abused?

 There are many different forms of abuse: (See link in menu to find out more on different types of abuse.)

 This is building a community around like-minded individuals. That wants to link arms and hearts together to bring more awareness to the different forms of abuse. Don’t be a victim or a villain but a victor. It is a choice and you get to chose, I know the  enemy is always going to be in your left ear trying to discourage you and shame you into not seeking help. One of Satan’s primary weapons against us all is discouragement, the enemy works on our emotions, trying to persuade us that we are not worthy of God’s love, plans or blessings. He tells us that the trials we experience are evidence that the lord has rejected us. He seeks to make us feel defeated because if he can make us give up, he will have victory over Jesus and us. This is exactly what I believed which left me to live continuously in survivial mode and not thriving. Unwilling to accept the truth, the shame and the guilt outweighed my pain. I’m not telling you anything you don’t know here, you’re well aware of the grief of being wounded. We just think we’re the only ones.

Because of our brokenness, as we see it as disqualifying us from contributing to life around us. We struggle to see any good—–Beauty—— in our painful stories. If God can take the messes of my life and restore and repurpose so much of what had thought was lost, he can do the same for you. I’ve been there spending days and nights to myself not letting anyone into my dark world I was living in. Even though I was surrounded by good people who would have helped me get out of my situation, I would let the shame define how I would live, I was unhappy, I was miserible, and I certainly was not helping anyone around me who was seeing the abuse. It was toxic and I know that I hurt my loved ones and I know that the children that lived in the household at the time we’re also scarred. I no longer carry the shame or gulit, I made the choice to get out of bondage. I went on a mission for myself for the very first time. I was determined I was no longer going to be a victim. I was going to be the Victor. 

  God’s love for you is unconditional, if no one has told you today, you are loved. I want to teach you how God took the messes in my life and turned them into messages.

If you are in immediate danger contact 911. 

This is a non-jugdemetal community and no poltics. Any information on this website is not intended to provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a subtitute for medical advice and you should  take any action before consulting with a healthcare professional. I want to help you and guide you out of abuse. I am not a doctor. I am a certified life coach, business coach and executive coach, author and speaker (certified) 

I had to walk down the necessary road of humiliation and pride in order to acheive enough self respect and love myself enough to get out and away from my abuser. Before I could ever see the beauty in my scars. Sometimes they are not pretty and they will always be a reminder of what I had to walk through in life. I am more thankful each and everytime I see my scars. Even when I did not pray to my Jesus he was always there for me just as he is there for you.  We have work to do here together so we can all can discover that God brings beauty from our brokenness. 

The “Fact” of the matter is that wounds that come from the hands of another will leave dramatic scars that tell formative stories. 

If you are an organization or someone who would like to utilize my skills, or my knowledge in understanding abuse please contact me at 


(My solo book about my toxic abusive marraige that nearly took my life is in progress.)